Odyssey is now KindGoodHappyDec 11, 2021
We launched our social-emotional learning (SEL) program in schools, which got kids excited to build skills for success (you can read all about that here). But now that we're available to families everywhere, we are changing our brand to reflect what parents everywhere strive for: teach kids to be kind to others and act for the good of society, which leads to fulfillment and happiness. Not to mention a more peaceful and less stressful household!
Welcome to our new brand, KindGoodHappy; your go-to resource to teach kids how to stay out of trouble, do well in school, and go on to do awesome things as an adult. Whether you're looking for parenting hacks to handle the daily ups and downs, or seeking ways to supercharge your child's potential, KindGoodHappy uses a practice-based approach to build life-changing emotional habits that:
- Stamp out family conflict
- Create pockets of quality time with your child, and
- Paves their way to happiness and success
Research shows that emotional intelligence (EQ) improves academic achievement by 11 percentile points1, and it's such a predictor of success that fortune 500 companies may prioritize job applicants with high EQ over those with work experience. While people often think emotions are all fluff, there's actually a science behind it. Unlike IQ, which is set at birth, EQ can be learned with practice. And just like any skill, practicing the right things and practicing a lot and often are the keys to becoming an expert (sound familiar, athletes and musicians?).
In their book The Triple Focus, internationally renowned psychologist Daniel Goleman and scientist Peter Senge discuss competencies needed in three key areas - the inner, other, and outer - that help us "navigate a fast-paced world of increasing distraction and growing interconnectedness."
Inner: The first step to building EQ is gaining understanding of the self and building the competencies of self-awareness (the ability to recognize our emotions and how they influence our thoughts and behaviors) and self-management (the ability to regulate our emotions, thoughts and behaviors). This includes our ability to manage stress, control our impulses, and how we motivate ourselves to do tough things. When we get better at self-awareness and self-management, our self-esteem grows. We also become more grateful and content, making it easier to find joy and happiness. Who knew that knowing yourself could do so much, eh?
Other: Once we get a handle on ourselves, it's just as important to understand others. The key SEL competencies here are social awareness and relationship skills. That's our ability to see others' perspectives and show kindness and empathy. It's also our ability to communicate clearly and listen carefully in order to resolve conflicts and know when to seek or offer help.
Outer: So there's ourselves and others, what else is there when it comes to relationships, you ask? 'The outer' is the money concept, putting it all together with responsible decision-making. This is where we take note of our social environment (such as school, the soccer field, or a family party) and understand how to make good choices about our personal behavior and the way we interact with other people considering the ethics, safety, and social norms for that scenario. It's all about understanding how our actions impact the well-being of ourselves and others, and recognizing when actions that are perfectly fine in one situation are a no-no in other situations. For example, running around and squealing with glee is all well and good at the park, but not so much at a restaurant.
For you military or business nerds out there, all this emotional fluff has surprising overlap with Sun Tzu's famous quote from the Art of War:
If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.
Knowing yourself is a reference to 'the inner,' knowing the enemy refers to 'the other,' and knowing the enemy and yourself is about putting it all together in context as 'the outer.' The Art of War was written over 2,000 years ago, so while EQ is a relatively new concept, the theories behind it have been around for quite some time!!
Looking to get more kindness, goodness, and happiness in your life? KindGoodHappy makes it easy for you to start building these competencies through a series of simple, 5-min activities that are also a fun way to get a peek into what's in your child's head and heart. Do these 3 things to get parenting hacks and new ways to connect with your child!
- Follow @kindgoodhappy on social media.
- Join our mailing list.
- Become a member and get access to the full set of EQ-building activities for parents and children to do together.
1Durlak et al. (2011) Child Development, 82, pp.405-432
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